My 6m old daughter will only eat in our bedroom side laying in our bed. If I try to hold her to feed she will throw her head back arch her back and SCREAM until I lay down with her. I used to be able to use the boppy pillow in the living room or nurse in the car but she won't have anything to do with it now. I now have to make sure that I leave the house for no longer than a hour because shell skip feeds and throw a fit. It's embrassing and I feel like I'm trapped in a cage never being able to leave the house. She will also not take a bottle and has went 8 hours without eating just to get the boob. What can I do? What am I doing wrong? I'm at such a loss. I love our quiet little nursing sessions but I'm slowly doing stir crazy..
We can understand that this can be very frustrating! As they get older, babies can get distracted, very preferential about where and when they want to do things, and they can leave us wondering what is going on. There is nothing that you are doing that is wrong and she will likely grow out of it. It is likely that she has gotten used to that position and finds comfort in it. Perhaps it is that it is darker and more calm in there and she prefers less stimulation and distraction when she is nursing. You can try the side lying in another room --like the living room on the couch--to see if that helps as it may reassure her that it is still the same position but you can get her used to the other environment. Try to replicate the scene as much as possible (without relocating your bedroom!) by having the same lighting and the same position. Nursing is about nourishment but it is also about nurturing and at her age, she is so much more aware and she likely craves the closeness to you in the position she feels best which is side lying. You can also try to move up her feeedings a little and perhaps try to get your let-down with a pump or with hand expression so when she latches on the milk is flowing. It is common for them to go for stretches without eating in protest until they get back to the breast. You can also try offering her a sippy or straw cup when you are out to see if that distracts and gets her to drink expressed breastmilk. If this continues, it would be good to have an in person consult with a lactation consultant so she can observe and detect anything else that could be impacting her nursing. If you need assistance finding an LC in your area there is a locator on the association website at ilca.org