I am having such a difficult time with breastfeeding it has become increasingly painful at times I dont want to give up so what can I do? I don't know how to get my daughter to open her mouth wide and one feeding when I removed her from my breast it was blood coming out.
Lisa, I am sorry to hear you are having these difficulties. Have you seen a lactation consultant or counselor in person as that may be the best route to take as it is better to have a person watch your baby latching on and offer on the spot tips to help in your specific situation. If you need help finding an LC in your area the lactation consultant association (ILCA.org) has a lc finder you can search with your city, state, and zip code. In the meantime, there are a couple of things to try. Be sure you are bringing your baby to the breast instead of leaning down and bringing breast to baby. You can use your breast and nipple to tickle baby's cheek and lips to get her to open wider and latch her on that way. You can also make your hand into a position as if you were holding a sandwich, called the c-hold so you can have your thumb under the areola and the index finger on top so you can make your breast a little more compressed to get in the baby's mouth. It is possible the baby is only latching on the nipple and that can be causing the blood if there is soreness and a wound. Not seeing you and baby it makes it difficult to help you from a distance so i would recommend seeing an LC in person if you can. You can also use HPA Lanolin after your feeds (and dont need to wipe it off prior to breastfeeding as it is safe for you and baby) so you can address the chafing that seems to be happening. It is realy important to address the underlying cause which seems to be latching on but in the meantime, the HPA will help promote supple skin and help with any soreness you have.
Please let us know if you need more assistance and we do wish you the best of luck,
Gina C, CLC